|John Holmes Motherfucker |
Spoiler Alert: He dies.
John Holmes Motherfucker
Actually, he was still alive until just a few months ago. His obit:
Thems some truly gross toenails.
|Jet Bin Fever |
Alcohol is one of the worst drugs out there. Worse, it doesn't even work that well.
I don't understand alcoholism. My mother was an alcoholic, I myself have been addicted to a substance (nicotine), and yet... the whole alcoholism phenomenon leaves me baffled. I sincerely hope that alcoholics get whatever help they need, but man.... why does it happen in the first place?
I kinda wish I understood, but I have a feeling that the only way to really understand is to experience it... which is something I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.
There are tons of reasons why people become alcoholics, but a lot of those reasons have nothing to do with the high of the drug. An addict structures his entire life around what he's doing. It's a system, and there's a safety in it. The hangovers and the pain of not having it are part of the pleasure, because at those times you are allowed free reign to bask in your failure, you are entitled to say "I am a failure" and you really don't have to confront any of the damage you've done to yourself or the people around you.
That is the cycle, of crashing and feeling pain, which you think you need or deserve to feel, and then escaping that pain with alcohol.
For other people it really is just self-medication because their lives are so unbelievably awful. I dated a girl who's mother was gang raped in her own car as the rapists drove around her neighborhood. Never caught em', but it's kind of easy to understand why she ended up in rehab repeatedly.
Binro the Heretic
Pretty much what baleen said. My sister is a hardcore addict. Her every waking moment is spent trying to acquire drugs, even when she already HAS drugs. She suffers physically and mentally from her lifestyle, but absolutely refuses to give it up. We've tried everything from begging and pleading to intervention to the tough love method of turning our back on her until she gets help. None of it has worked so far.
We've tried time and again to get her into rehab, but you can't force someone into something like that. It's like that old riddle: How many psychiatrists does it take to change a light bulb? Only one, but the light bulb has to WANT to change. For whatever reason, she just doesn't want to change.
All we can do is take care of the two kids she's more or less abandoned and hope she finally decides she's had enough of this.
I don't know why she became an addict. I guess she started using in high school, when most kids start experimenting with drugs, (my dad caught her huffing gasoline when she was fifteen) but lots of kids try drugs and very few of them become addicts, even the ones with terrible lives and her life didn't seem terrible, at least not at home. She had love, emotional support and material comfort.
Maybe addiction has just as much to do with DNA and brain chemistry as it does with psychology. Maybe one day we'll have actual medical treatments that can cure addiction.
I certainly hope so.
It is, I think, one of the most important things, if not the most important things that anyone has to deal with. We all have some things that we do because in the short term they feel good or allow us to avoid some pain or anxiety, but that in the long term increase it. I don't know what the answer is either.
Buddhists say that life is a cycle of self-inflicted suffering, and when I made the connection between that and compulsive behavior, Buddhism suddenly seemed extremely practical.
While I'm at it, this is a good article about the "marshmallow study":
John Holmes Motherfucker
I used to have a problem with binge drinking. I was given antidepressants, and within 3 months, the urge to drink left me utterly. Haven't touched a drop in almost 12 and a half years.
But I don't think I was an alcoholic, in the strict medical sense. They say alcoholism is a disease, but you don't have to have a disease to drink too much. Like any self-destructive behavior, it can be part of a pattern of despair, denial, poor impulse control, social anxiety, blah blah blah.
But THIS is just a disease. There's no deep psychological problem here. This guy's brain wants alcohol, and even though it's killing him slowly, he can't help himself. Since all methods of avoiding alcohol involve USING HIS BRAIN, he's fucked. You're never going to outsmart your own brain. It knows everything you know, and a little bit more. That's why AA's need a power greater than themselves.
That link about the Marshmallow Study was fascinating. Thanks a bunch.
I'd just like to point out that drugs have really enhanced my life. I didn't drink alcohol or smoke in my teens and I find that even though I don't generally have my shit together it's a fucking trivial matter for me to avoid most of the pitfalls of drugs. I blame alcohol for a lot of these issues. Nothing teaches you how to be stupid about drugs like alcohol.
I can't help but wonder if people weren't being actively pushed by the government toward a drug that teaches such bad habits if we'd have so many addicts.
Who does he think he is, Ronnie fucking Dobbs?
Reference humor all looks like this to me:
Whoa, someone tell Simon Mapleworth that someone's stealing his Rita Meyers! GOOD TIME OF DAY!
Y'ALL ARE BRUTALIZING HIS REFERENCE!
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