|kamlem - 2014-08-29 |
"I have a lot of friends that are gay, but there not related to me" is certainly a permutation I have not heard before. I hope his idiot family are looking at the current 2,265,409 views and feeling awfully ashamed about their conditional love right now.
|memedumpster - 2014-08-29 |
Dumbass, never come out to your family if you live with them, and seriously consider never telling them at all. It's bullshit that they deserve to know, they do not.
also, dudegirl, listen to his voice. you really think coming out was a shocker?
the closet isn't a luxury for some.
|misterbuns - 2014-08-29 |
The whole point of coming out is so we don't have to live with the ridiculous boundaries you are suggesting.
oops that was a response for memedumpster.
I have four brothers I would have to kill to ensure my own survival if they knew I was gay. After that, I have hundreds of related family who would then seek revenge.
What boundary do you even see?
You can sit back and NOT have to kill people to be gay to everyone, the rest of us have to choose.
My point is, it's not very ethical to destroy my family with violence because they will seek my death if they know me too well. It's not just about gay people, it's also the fucking ridiculously violent idiots some of us have to live with.
I hate double posting, because it's an obvious sign of successfully trolled anger, but I'm too old to not know what being gay is like, and I have no respect for affluent homos who don't live in the fucking hellscape of the Confederacy telling me how I should be braver. You come down here and be braver with a family full of Klansmen and bikers who attend churces with black swords over the altars.
Biological family is overrated anyway. Sometimes it's best just to cut your loses and never look back.
Maybe you should move up north?
I mean, take this kid for example. Yeah, it sucks for him and all, but... would he really be happy living in his mom's basement? Is her "support" even worth it? With a family like that, fuck 'em.
Meme, that's awful and I agree that you made the right choice in your situation. And certainly the boundaries you've set aren't ridiculous as I claimed.
Though, I stand by my point in that bigotry doesn't dissolve by itself. It takes a neutron cloud of terrible difficult confrontations that hold people accountable for their hatred.
btw not trollin u
Meme, my family sounds an awful lot like yours - though that seems fairly common in the south.
Years ago, at the last family function I attended, my then-wife made the blunder of mentioning she and I were atheists. In her defense, she was a northerner that had no idea what she was stepping into with that disclosure. The ensuing shitstorm was the beginning of me cutting ties with my family.
Coming out as gay would be downright dangerous in my family, if not deadly.
I don't know what your situation is or how much you love your kinfolk, but I'd feel irresponsible if I didn't put in another vote for abandoning the intolerant lot of 'em.
I apologize for being an angry dumbass.
I agree that confrontation is necessary, and even extremely desirable, but martyrdom is not.
Check out the Southern Poverty Law Center's study of hate crime data.
Jesus, you guys. You deserve better families.
If you ever want to escape northwards, Underground Railroad style, I'm along the route to Station Hope (St. John's Episcopal Church in Cleveland, whence you could take a boat to Canada), and I can totally set up a manger or something for you.
Funny thing about Station Hope ... remember those three women who were held in bondage / sexual slavery for like a decade by some Cleveland weirdo? That was maybe a mile and a half from St. John's. There's some cruel irony in there.
memey-d, I'm positive you weren't being trolled.
Sorry to hear about all that. If you gotta live somewhere else and cut ties, do it.
Also, you got every reason to be happy with yourself and keep your shit together.
Illegitimi non carborundum
Jet Bin Fever
Threads like this make me happy to be here, guys. I love you all. It saddens me that you face such troubles, and I hope they get better for you. I wish I could offer room in my house too, but I'm in a loft apartment and could barely offer enough room on the floor to sleep on.
|Scrimmjob - 2014-08-29 |
Jesus, being a gay kid in the bible belt must really suck.
Also being black. Or a woman. Or liberal. Or....
I ran into a childhood friend and neighbor of mine from years ago who had a similar story. The difference? His parents are staunch atheists and live in one of the most liberal parts of a very liberal city.
Jet Bin Fever
I've lived here my whole life, and I still get amazed by how ridiculous it is.
|Simillion - 2014-08-29 |
Seems like Daniel has learned just about all he could from his family as he can anyway. Time to move out and make a new family. I hope he knows there are millions of people who support him. I hope he has the courage to make it alone.
|StanleyPain - 2014-08-29 |
This guy's boyfriend set up a GoFundMe for him and he made, like, ,000 in less than 12 hours.
Yeah. As a reply to Simillion and you, Daniel's never gonna be alone.
Well then, he did the right thing!
I hope he and his man can set up nice digs in a new town.
People already assumed it was a hoax so a lot of journalists already have dug into this and as far as anyone can tell it's a true thing and the kid has basically been disowned by his family. I suppose anything is possible it might be a balloon kid type of thing where everyone is in on it, but for now it seems to be legit.
It's not surprising in the slightest. I would never even suspect a hoax. There's a reason there's no thriving gay scene in Panama City.
If I were in this kid's situation, about to come out to intolerant douchebag parents, I would absolutely record it if I had even the slightest inkling that it could turn out like this. At most, it could turn out to be important legal evidence if shit takes a bad turn. At least, I could use it to shame the assholes for the rest of their lives.
Given the large number of kids who are thrown out of their homes every year after coming out (by one estimate, nearly half of homeless teenagers are gay or trans) and how big teens are into recording every moment of their lives on smartphones, this is a situation that was bound to happen sooner or later.
This wasn't a hoax, this was an inevitability.
It's like k now. I hope he uses what he doesn't need to start a charity for kids that face the same situation.
For the record, I was being cynical. I don't actually think this is a hoax, and I am sympathetic, and I think his parents are shitty.
It takes 00 to guarantee a child's survival in the worst Third World. America has so much financial power, I just with we'd be a little more rational with our giving. This man has a sad story, but that 90k could have saved many small lives.
|crasspm - 2014-08-29 |
Ladies and gentlemen, my parents.
Honestly though this shook me for more than just the obvious reasons. This is how my parents would react if I or any of my siblings were to deliver this kind of news. I went through an embarrassing goth phase in high school and was nearly disowned after I had left some black nail polish on. Coming out would have undoubtedly resulted in physical violence.
|TheOtherCapnS - 2014-08-29 |
a) Dad gave him the gay gene
b) Mom gave him the gay gene, and needs to be taught a lesson
c) Sweet little baby Jesus has abandoned the family, for now, but Footprints
d) My life is fucking fantastic
e) This is Dr. Venture's fault for not destroying the gay gene when he had the chance.
|il fiore bel - 2014-08-29 |
|Caminante Nocturno - 2014-08-29 |
It never occurs to you that the word "choice" could have so much hatred and bigotry attached to it until you listen to these kinds of people.
And the lead up to it with the "I've always known you were gay" business just adds that extra heart-wrenching dimension, doesn't it?
How could she have always know he was gay if he was a kid and being gay is a choice? Is she saying she always knew he would "make the wrong choice and pick to be gay" in which case why didn't she "raise him right" or whatever?
Fuck these guys, I hope an orgy of oiled up German bears jizz in their eyes while they lay on their deathbeds.
|kingarthur - 2014-08-29 |
Luckily, despite being born in The South, my family wasn't like this for anyone. No one's gay, but they've managed to accept LGBT friends of me and my brothers with no question or any witholding of support. I'm in an interracial relationship and it's not once been a problem. I don't know how, but for the deep South I got extremely lucky. I've had two friends come out as transgender and they were both disowned by their families and one was even driven to death by alcohol by his family.
I hate that the South is like this but I get so frustrated with the danger of confronting the South on their collective ignorance about this that I keep coming back to "get out of the deep south" as a solution. There's decades of bullshit religion and blaming others for the extreme wealth inequality here that drives this sort of thing.
|exy - 2014-08-29 |
5 for being depressing as hell.
|joelkazoo - 2014-08-29 |
Evil. Just plain fucking evil.
|Billy the Poet - 2014-08-29 |
Nice that this one's out of the hopper one behind Kirk Cameron's "Christians have it so hard" bitch fest.
|Scrotum H. Vainglorious - 2014-08-30 |
Wish I didn't watch this but it's nice to know he's over 90k so far.
|Adham Nu'man - 2014-08-30 |
Poor kid, what a bunch of frightened assholes make up his family. I hope he manages to put some distance between them, and hopefully his parents will learn they have been assholes and will change and with time and distance their relationship can heal. Family sometimes is shit but it's still family and there is a deep need to feel loved by your family.
To every gay person here, my respect for putting up with stupid nonsensical shit caused to you due to frightened, reactionary responses by limited minds. Hopefully this shit will someday be a thing of the past.
|Jet Bin Fever - 2014-08-30 |
Well holy shit. Here's hoping this guy finds solace and love and friendship. That's fucking horrible.
|Jet Bin Fever - 2014-08-30 |
DON'T READ THE COMMENTS. I'm not just saying that... I really really mean it. You may be tempted after reading this. But I swear to you, DO NOT READ THEM. They will make you hate everything in life. It will drain all the joy from your day. Please... just don't. You can imagine all the angles, and it won't be as bad in your own mind as what's posted there.
|Centennial Ostrich - 2014-09-01 |
"You can believe in scientific proof. I believe in the word of God."
I grew up in Alabama and Mississippi. I can't tell you how many times I've heard that same line said by fools to justify proud ignorance and believing in nonsense. Also, if you tell the person saying it that they sound like a Muslim fundamentalist... that usually doesn't go over very well, either.
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